Pressures & Posers

By Erika, age 14, Florida

How many times have you come home exhausted from school, and all you wanted to do was sit down on the couch and watch TV? When a self-conscious teenager watches TV all they see is the perfect body that all the celebrities and teen idols have. Even if some people don't want to admit it, deep down inside everyone wants that body. Most girls between the ages of 13 and 18 are already very self-conscious about how they look, and more importantly how everyone else looks.

If you are in high school or middle school you know the pressure put on you by your peers to look and act like everyone else. Many people cave in to peer pressure and will do just about anything to fit in. Everyone wants to have friends and fit in, because people say friends help you survive and deal with problems that are usually very hard to deal with alone. Most people can't resist this pressure because it's everywhere. And in reality everyone wants to fit in. Being self-conscious is a very big issue because it opens a hole of vulnerability.

People will try to get you to do things that will usually only benefit themselves, or else hurt you or someone else. It will almost never benefit you. People will try to take advantage of you if they know you will do anything to fit in. Our job is to say, You know what? I'm fine with myself.

You see something on TV - a product, a celebrity, whatever - and you think you should be envious. You know what you should say? I am better than that. If you see someone with prettier hair, you should say, Well, at least mine isn't greasy ... or frizzy ... or whatever.

And this is the one people do the most often. If you see someone wearing a "name brand" product you know everyone has or wants to have, don't just get it to fit in, because then you will only earn the name "poser" or "wannabe".

If you see something you like, go for it, but don't do anything just to fit in because nothing good results. We're our own person, and if we're happy with ourselves we don't need to change for anyone. Just be yourself. Don't let anyone change you or try to change you, because it usually won't benefit you.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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