Why I'm Not a Feminist

By Kristin, age 14, California
Sweet Designs Featured Writer

The world we live in today has made great strides for women's rights, and I'm happy about that. I think it's great that women are treated as equals, but I think that there are some serious flaws in what people now call feminism. What feminism was years ago was seeking out for the right to vote and be paid the same in the workplace, but today feminism is more something that women use to justify hating men and not raising their children. I may sound insane, but after growing up with a working mother, I know for a fact that I will never put my kids through that. I mean, honestly, if you had the option, would you have chosen to be raised by a nanny / day care center? Of course you wouldn't choose that.

I understand that single mothers have to work, but to be blunt and honest, I have no sympathy for a woman who has children she either can't support or else needs to neglect in order to put food on the table. There are so many forms of birth control today that it's very rare for someone to actually be able to call a pregnancy an accident. In my opinion, it's very simple - a child needs a parent, not a nanny or a day care center. My dad stayed home when I was young, and so I had a parent. I always felt safe and loved, having someone there to pick me up from school. I have memories from that time that I will always cherish. However, not only do I now have a very strained relationship with my mom, but she also missed out on those experiences with me. No child deserves to be void of those experiences and memories, and no mother should be willing to give up her chance to have those experiences with her child.

I would describe myself as a feminist in the context that I believe in women having equal rights, meaning that I believe in women having the choice to not get married or not have children, or to do whatever is it they want to do. I just disagree with the thought process of a woman making the choice to have children and also choosing to neglect them by tossing them in a day care center rather than raising them herself.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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