Boyfriends and Choosing Them

By Taylor, age 15, Ontario

Do all your friends have boyfriends and you feel like you're being left behind? Like you don't fit in and there is nobody out there for you? Well, you no longer have to feel this way. Here are some tips, stories and advice.

I have had so many relationships go down the drain I can't even keep count. The boys will always say, It's not me, it's you, when half the time it's them. They just don't want to make themselves look bad. This one particular guy made me feel like I could walk on air and I could do anything and say anything when I was around him ... until the day he broke my heart. He ruined me. He was my life, and it all went down the drain. Everything I'd worked for and wanted just disappeared. He took something from me that I really felt was right. We could talk about anything and he wouldn't tell anybody. I really wanted it to work, but sometimes it just doesn't. We went out, like, 5 more times, but every single time he dumped me. He broke my heart over and over again, and yet he still didn't seem to care. We're still good friends, but every time I have my friends over he always flirts with them right in front of me. I feel like I'm not pretty enough because I have freckles. Every guy has always judged me because of them.

I really want to experience a good healthy relationship, but the way life is going now I don't think it will work out. Everything seems to go down the drain. You have to live up to people's standards and be what they want you to be. If you try to pretend to be somebody you're not you always get screwed around in the end. It never works out the way you hope it does.

But along the way I've learned a few things. A healthy relationship consists of communication, feelings, trust, and the role each of you guys plays in the relationship. You have to be able to talk about your feelings towards each other, and when something's wrong you've got to be able to trust them with it. Don't let a silly fight tear up your relationship. If it was meant to be, it will be.

Recently I met up with a guy I went to school with back in my younger days. He was really cute, sensitive, and hilarious, and he had an amazing personality. He still has it. He liked me back then, but was afraid to tell me, and I liked him, but was afraid to tell him. Well, we saw each other at Lift Off, this fair our town does every year. I was amazed at how good looking he has become, and at that moment I fell head over heels for him. We are really tight and we may go out soon.

If you're looking for the right guy for you, but just can't seem to find him, ask yourself these three questions:

Am I ready for a relationship? You don't want to get into a relationship if you're not really ready.

Am I asking too much? You don't want to expect too much. He doesn't have to be the quarterback on the football team and captain of the hockey team. It isn't about impressing your friends. And he doesn't have to move fast so you can show your friends you're experienced.

Am I looking in the wrong place? You don't also want to be looking at goth people if you're interested in athletes, or the other way around. You want to find someone who is compatible with you.

How to dump a guy

If you're having major problems with a guy or you've just lost interest in him, don't let him down too hard. Tell him you like him, but you're not in love with him anymore. Explain that you lost interest in him perhaps because you guys are talking about the same stuff over and over again or you don't see each other enough. Don't just say, I want to break up. You've got to let him down softy because, believe it or not, guys have feelings just like us.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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