Boyfriends and Choosing Them
By Taylor, age 15, Ontario
Do all your friends have boyfriends and you feel like you're being left behind? Like you don't fit in and there is nobody out there for you? Well, you no longer have to feel this way. Here are some tips, stories and advice.
I have had so many relationships go down the drain I can't even keep count. The boys will always say, It's not me, it's you, when half the time it's them. They just don't want to make themselves look bad. This one particular guy made me feel like I could walk on air and I could do anything and say anything when I was around him ... until the day he broke my heart. He ruined me. He was my life, and it all went down the drain. Everything I'd worked for and wanted just disappeared. He took something from me that I really felt was right. We could talk about anything and he wouldn't tell anybody. I really wanted it to work, but sometimes it just doesn't. We went out, like, 5 more times, but every single time he dumped me. He broke my heart over and over again, and yet he still didn't seem to care. We're still good friends, but every time I have my friends over he always flirts with them right in front of me. I feel like I'm not pretty enough because I have freckles. Every guy has always judged me because of them.
I really want to experience a good healthy relationship, but the way life is going now I don't think it will work out. Everything seems to go down the drain. You have to live up to people's standards and be what they want you to be. If you try to pretend to be somebody you're not you always get screwed around in the end. It never works out the way you hope it does.
But along the way I've learned a few things. A healthy relationship consists of communication, feelings, trust, and the role each of you guys plays in the relationship. You have to be able to talk about your feelings towards each other, and when something's wrong you've got to be able to trust them with it. Don't let a silly fight tear up your relationship. If it was meant to be, it will be.
Recently I met up with a guy I went to school with back in my younger days. He was really cute, sensitive, and hilarious, and he had an amazing personality. He still has it. He liked me back then, but was afraid to tell me, and I liked him, but was afraid to tell him. Well, we saw each other at Lift Off, this fair our town does every year. I was amazed at how good looking he has become, and at that moment I fell head over heels for him. We are really tight and we may go out soon.
If you're looking for the right guy for you, but just can't seem to find him, ask yourself these three questions:
Am I ready for a relationship? You don't want to get into a relationship if you're not really ready.
Am I asking too much? You don't want to expect too much. He doesn't have to be the quarterback on the football team and captain of the hockey team. It isn't about impressing your friends. And he doesn't have to move fast so you can show your friends you're experienced.
Am I looking in the wrong place? You don't also want to be looking at goth people if you're interested in athletes, or the other way around. You want to find someone who is compatible with you.