By Cassondra Lynn, age 16, California

I'm a very self-motivated person, and whenever I picture my future husband, I imagine him as motivated also. So what was I supposed to feel when the boy I fell in love with was the complete opposite of motivated?

I've been with him for a year and three months now. At first, I tried to inspire him. You know, "You can do it!" When that didn't work, I started to pressure him, making sure all his homework was done, and that he was trying his best. His grades remained D's and C's.

Then I had the bright idea to try and change him. We ended up fighting about it constantly and almost breaking up over it. I was running out of ideas. I want him to have the brightest future possible, and his current status wasn't going to get him there.

Finally I just gave up for the most part, hoping he would grow up in time.

For the last week or so, he'd been really depressed and he wouldn't tell me why. He was defensive and moody. Everything I did was wrong in his eyes. (Girls, you know how that is.) Finally he broke down and told me.

"I'm dyslexic."

It turns out that as a child he was diagnosed with moderate to severe dyslexia, but his mother never told him. After he brought his progress report home last week (all D's and one A in PE), his mom finally told him.

His whole life he's been constantly mocked for not being able to read well. He's never been a good or even satisfactory student.

He was ashamed of his learning disorder; I was ecstatic. The way I see it, I told him, now that we know what's wrong, we can work to overcome it. "We can get through this!" I said to him.

He was overjoyed by my reaction. Now we're looking into help, to see how severe the disorder is, and to find ways to help him. I'm glad I can finally do something.

So far, things haven't been going too well. His father insists he's fine and never was dyslexic, though he has every symptom, so he refuses to get him help. Meanwhile, my boyfriend is feeling more taunted than ever by his so-called best friend, the only other person he told about his dyslexia.

So now I want your opinion. What do I do?? Do I try to find him help, or at least get him tested for dyslexia? I'm already telling his friend to back off; my boyfriend doesn't need this stress right now. But I'm stuck. What can I really do to help him? And where would I find help? If you have your own personal opinion or story to tell, or just have an idea to help, you can use the feedback form below. Thank you.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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