Boy Meets Girl

By Tess, age 15, Florida

Boy meets girl. Boy hurts girl. Girl just keeps running back? Does this make any sense?

This subject has constantly been on my mind lately, and a few of my closest friends and family members are palpable demonstrations of this fact. Why do girls have to be thrown around and treated as though they were lower than the dirt under one's feet in order to fall in love? It makes me sick!

Am I the only exception? I don't know. But what I do know is that girls closest to my heart go after the guys who treat them like a little shiny toy. These guys play with them, throw them around, and eventually move on to the latest, shiniest toy. What makes this even stranger is, the old shiny toy just keeps running back. They cry and cry and hurt, but no matter what, they keep running back.

I can't stand to be hurt, and would leave any man who treated me the way guys treat some of the girls I know. I know one woman who is an amazing person - let's call her Louise. She is beautiful, smart, and an all around independent woman. Then, four years ago, she met a man. For our story's sake, let's call him Jason.

Louise is sitting at a table in a new town, alive, with new hope in her heart. The table is outside, and a cool breeze blows through her hair. As she sips at her coffee, she glances over and sees a man. By her standards, he is handsome. He is nicely dressed and has a Rolex on his arm. To Louise, he is exactly her type. She catches his eye, and to her luck, he receives her smile with twinkling eyes. They introduce each other.

Fast forward a year. They are dating. She is an on fire Christian and he is a pessimistic atheist. She loves him, despite such a large difference. Her entire family hates him, but she ignores that. He puts down her God as much as he can and even goes as far as to say Moses created God to get fame and fortune. She loves him anyway.

Fast forward another year. She comes home crying. Another week passes, and she's crying again.

One more year, he hits her. She is afraid for her life and leaves her home until she feels safe again. They break up, and she begins to get her life back in order.

You would think this was the end of the story, right? Wrong.

Fast forward to 2009. Today. Men of all kinds have been looking at her. They are great guys who know how to treat her right. Everyone thinks she should go for one of them, but she doesn't. Instead, she goes for Jason ... again. He sends her texts putting her down and calling her a liar, among other things. But whenever he calls, she still calls him "Honey." They speak about cuddling and kissing. She would pick him over ANYTHING, but he is still the sadistic man he always was.

This story does not have an ending, for as sad as it is, it is still going on. I don't know if Louise will find her strength and get rid of this man.

I am sharing with you this story because I don't ever want anyone, male or female, to have to go through this endless cycle of pain. I don't think I could watch another person dear to my heart go through this. Love and pain do not belong together.

So please, if you are being hurt (physically or emotionally) don't stand for it any longer. You do deserve better, no matter what someone may tell you. Everyone deserves a chance for love. A kind of love that does not hurt, but fills the heart with sunlight. Everyone deserves happiness, but not the happiness that is only a mask for one's tears.

Go for the guy who treats you right. Please, don't be a statistic.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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