By Chelsie, age 14, South Wales, United Kingdom

Recently I've had a lot of my friends telling me how I've changed, because I look different, because I've had a boyfriend, and because of the way I take photos. Now, in my opinion, yes, I have changed, but I haven't changed for the worse. I haven't become b****y and I've managed to grow up. I wear less makeup and I don't care too much about what people think of me.

But this has been really getting to me. Sometimes I wonder if they hate me. My friends think I've become "plastic". I'm sure you've all seen Mean Girls. Well, they think I've turned into one of them. I think that's pretty pathetic, as I'm not a s***, and I'm really not that popular.

In 2007, I started in high school. (In the UK we hit high school when we're approximately 12.) I never wore makeup, and I had a boyfriend I'd dated for about a year. We never kissed, and our relationship was innocent. Then, in year eight, I wore makeup - quite a lot - and my relationship wasn't so innocent. We never had sex, but people assumed we did. We finally broke up because of the rumours that I was pregnant (which was impossible), and we just stayed friends.

Then I hit year 9, the year I'm in now. It has been terrible. I've had a boyfriend since the last one - tall, handsome, and caring. But he got clingy ... very clingy. He wouldn't let me go at all, and he was constantly asking me where I'd been and who I'd been with. We dated starting on January 29th, 2009, and broke up on May 4th because he wanted what I wasn't going to give him - sex. He sent constant texts to me asking, and I said No.

Since then, I've learned my friends thought I had agreed to it, and I haven't. The whole point in this is just to say:

Don't do what you don't want to. Don't let rumours get you down. And most importantly, let yourself grow. If you don't let yourself change, you're not letting yourself make mistakes and grow up.

Chelsie <3

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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