Long Distance Relationships in College
By Kristyn, age 20, Massachusetts
Sweet Designs Staff Intern
Long distance relationship?? Been there, done that! It's a lot harder than it looks. I had a long distance relationship the first semester of my freshman year, and it did not work too well. I had been in a serious relationship for three years with this same boy before going away to college.
However, when you go to college, it is a completely different lifestyle. Everywhere you look there are boys of all types, sizes, and personalities. I like to think of it as a gold mine! It's really hard to settle for someone when you know you have so many opportunities out there. It becomes very hard to maintain a relationship with your boyfriend over the phone, and then live your new life at school as well. I'm not saying it can't work, but for some of us it can be very difficult. My ex-boyfriend would call me repeatedly, harass me, and get very jealous and insecure because he wasn't at school with me. Eventually he began to make me cry more than he made me smile, and that's when I knew that everyone was right when they said long distance relationships don't work.
It also becomes difficult if your roommates have boyfriends from home because they want to come and stay every weekend, and then your room seems overcrowded. This also happened to me with my roommates. Their boyfriends would come to our school and stay, and I would feel like I had to leave my own room. This isn't fair to anyone ... especially when there's a whole bunch of fish out there to see!
Some of you may find that it will work to have a long distance relationship, and some of you may realize it is simply impossible. For those of you who feel it's impossible, you must remember that even though the breakup may be the hardest thing you've ever had to go through, things will get better. I wish someone had told me this because they would have been right. I met my current boyfriend at college, and there isn't anyone else I would rather be with.