Forbidden Love
By Brittany, age 18, Tennessee
Okay, this is sort of asking for all kinds of advice as well as it is an article. I'm engaged to the most amazing boy for me, right? So we fight, which is normal, and we both know exactly how to get under each other's skin, but we both do love each other very much. It'll be 3 years on Christmas Eve.
Well, just because I'm in love with him doesn't mean I'm perfect. I'm only human. So, I find myself having feelings for other guys. Not serious feelings, only mere crushes. And while I've never cheated on anyone in my life because I've never had the reason to and I don't believe in it, it makes me wonder if I let myself feel as much as my emotions wanted to feel for another person, could cheating be possible?
I now slightly understand how and why some other people cheat. I'm not asking if it would be right to cheat on him, because I already know it wouldn't. He's done nothing to deserve it. Sometimes, though, he makes me feel like he's gotten too comfortable with our relationship. He sometimes lets slide behaviors that disrespect me or that he knows probably aren't the best way to treat me.
Then these nice guys come along and tell me those "sweet little things" that unfortunately catch all girls' attentions. Comments on "how beautiful you are" and "how nice your personality is" always get me where it hurts.
So, I'm just wondering how you would handle this situation. I'm going off to college soon, and I know I'll meet new people, including guys, and I don't want to wind up doing something I regret, or worse, breaking his heart, which would only break mine even worse.
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