Catching the Rebound

By Shanna, age 17, California

As hard as this is to believe, once upon a time I was the rebound girl. For a long time I tried to deny it and tell myself we were just friends, but things got out of control as fast as they started. Anything built on a lie will only be a lie in the end.

For a long time I believed no one ever loved me. Not my family, not my friends, not even my grandma who is my most trusted person on this earth. I bestowed my trust in a guy I had met earlier on in my life; he was also my friend's ex. He was somewhat older and much more mature than I was. He was nice to me and actually showed interest in me and the things I cared about. The only problem that held us back from being together was his girlfriend. As jealous as I was of her, I vowed to never let him know how much I envied their relationship. So I figured being a side was the closest I could get.

We hung out frequently, made many phone calls to each other, and visited each other's families. I figured getting in good with them would maybe draw me closer to my dream which was being his girlfriend. So enthused with the materials he possessed my eyes gleamed as bright as diamonds. Every time he shined those pearly whites at me my heart would just melt.

Envious, I knew I had to step up my game to get that concrete position, so I figured throwing myself at him would help, only to be shoved defensively away from him and told to never try that again. Hurt, I cried, excused myself, and avoided him for weeks. I just didn't understand why he didn't want to be with me as badly as I wanted to be with him.

I didn't mind her. She was simply a figment in his imagination I so desperately wanted to get rid of, but the more I tried, the more he grew away from me and closer to her ...

... Until one day when I got the news I wanted - they had broken up. I never smiled so hard in my life. Immediately he let down his barrier and let me in, only to put up another one saying that I wasn't his only side. Confused, once again I excused myself and avoided him, seeking advice from whomever would listen. It seemed like being a mistress would never be the answer ...

... Leading me to play basketball to clear some thoughts. Mind you, I'm not much of a hooper, but when somebody places themselves in the category of a helpless ball falling into a set of hands, giving them the power to help or destroy you, what results can only hurt.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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