Fatal Attractions
By Karina, age 17, Texas
Fatal attractions? Oh, yes. I had one of those. It was crazy. This boy - we shall name him Fred - went crazy over me. I'm not trying to say that I'm so awesome, but sometimes boys just go crazy over girls. To understand all of my pain and suffering, you have to understand the kind of person he was. Fred was 6'3" and was kind of like a brick wall. Again, I'm not trying to be mean.
Anyway, he was a little awkward looking, but it wasn't just that. He was creepy! At school, he would just watch me from across the hall, and his looks didn't make my dilemma any better. You know how when certain people talk they just get a little too close to your persona? Yeah, that was Fred. When he talked to me he came so close that usually I would just have to answer his question ... and then leave for a "class".
Anyway, one day he put a note in my locker. (By the way, this is NOT the way a boy should ask you out. Boys should have the confidence to come up to you in person, and they would probably get a better response that way as well.) At the end of the note it said to send a reply to "Fred at locker #322". So, I sent him back a note. Roughly, it said that I didn't want him to think that, if we did go out, we would be anything more than just friends.
Well, Fred freaked out. He said that he was just trying to be nice, and he didn't mean for it to be anything more. However, sometimes a girl can tell what a boy is thinking. He didn't talk to me for a while, which was perfectly fine for me. But when he came back around I was nice to him, but firm at the same time.
My advice: Girls, if a boy does this, you should start running ... No, just kidding. You should tell the boy RIGHT AWAY that you do not like him like that, but would just like to be friends. However, if you don't want to be friends with him, still be nice. It takes courage, even if it's just a locker note, to ask a girl out. The least you can do is to be nice towards the poor boy. I hope a boy never stalks you, but if it does happen, be firm with him, and you will do just fine!