The Life of a Teenage Girl
By Dhvani, age 14, Oman
We become a teen at the age of 13, right? For girls, they start becoming a teen at 13, but they are not teen queens until they are real b****es. In a lot of schools there is the whole 'clique' thing in which you have your little group that consists of people who are like you. For example, there is a clique for the riches, another for the cheerleaders, varsity girls, varsity boys, nerds, computer geeks, gamers, and so on.
This is one thing schools should seriously try avoiding. Why, you ask? Because when people are new at school, they get sorted into their cliques. No matter how hard you try to fit in with the popular group, you still belong to whatever clique you are sorted into. For the boys, it's not that much of a problem fitting in with the popular group. It's the girls who have the problem, and it all begins when you get into high school, or at the age of 13, when more than 65% of the girls in your grade are b****es.
Girls are basically what a guy needs in his life. A girl really thinks about how she looks and if her hair is okay or not, perhaps about liking a guy who is probably a grade or two above her. The life of a girl is pretty complicated, and every girl knows that. A girl faces problems at every age and at every stage. (I haven't had an easy life either.)
For example: a girl tries out for the cheerleading team and her mate tries out for the soccer team. They both get selected, and then from that day on the girls have to sit in their groups. The girl chosen for soccer has to sit with her soccer mates and the girl for cheerleading has to sit with her cheerleading mates.
In my school, it's completely different. We don't have cliques for cheerleading in school; in fact, my school doesn't have a cheerleading team, being an international school. During break time, all of my grade (year 9) sits in the café around two tables in a circle ... but that's just the popular ones. There is another group of four that sits around in the school. And another one that sits in one classroom, talking to people present in the class. I fit in with the classroom people. Even though a few people don't accept me being there I sit with them and try to talk to them. My friends, the group of four, were my friends before, but now, even though they sit together, they have someone new in the group and I was totally excluded, so I left them.
You might think this is just general fitting in. Well, it's not, because if you are a new girl at school, people will be nice to you for a bit to find out if you fit in the popular group or not. And if you don't, you'll need to find someone else to sit with. But if you're a boy, you're most likely to fit in with the popular kids. Pure sexism!
When a girl is in a relationship, she has to give in a lot, more than the boy. Most girls do what the boys ask them to. When a girl will have sex with her boyfriend, it's the girl who is going to regret it, not the boy. In school, she may be known as a sl** after that, and the girl could get pregnant if she didn't have protected sex. She could get into a lot of trouble with her parents. But for the boy, his parents could find out, and it will probably get him into big trouble with his parents, but then they will forget about it. The girl not only gets into big trouble, but has also lost her virginity, which parents hate when it happens to a daughter, and the girl's life could be really awkward around her family. So the life of a girl could be ruined in seconds and never be mended again!
So what does a girl do? In school, more than 65% of the girls have problems, right? Well, you don't always have to fit in. You could stand out, and there might be people impressed by you standing out. You have to let people like you for who you are and not for what you're pretending to be.
As for boys, the life of a teenage girl doesn't always have to have something to do with boys! It's how easy or hard you choose to make your life. A girl should always have a boyfriend who loves her and respects her limits. Boys can try to go too far sometimes if you don't manage them from the beginning. Clearly no one cares what a boy does. He will be known for it. 'Boys will be Boys' and 'Girls will be Girls', so what I say is: "Want people to respect you? Learn to respect yourself first!"
