Male "Friend" Abuse: My Secret Life

Author's Name Withheld by Request

A few years back I got myself into a situation similar to Amy, a main character on the hit show The Secret Life of the American Teenager. Only mine didn't end as happily and didn't start quite the same way. Some of my memories are a bit fuzzy, and you'll understand why after my story is done.

One day in January, 2007 my life changed, for better and worse. I was talked into losing my virginity to a friend. I was too young for this to happen, but that is not the point of this article. He was a great sweet talker and talked me into this particular situation. A few weeks after having lost my virginity to him I came to find out I was pregnant. This friend was a part of my life and the baby's life for a little while. I was pregnant long enough to find out we would be expecting a sweet baby girl.

Unfortunately things took a turn for the worse. I don't remember much about my pregnancy, nor do I have the photos to show you. My mother destroyed them to save me from the misery of losing my child. Yes, I said losing my child. On June 13th, 2007, about 5 months into my pregnancy, the father of my child spiked my drink with who-knows-what. I passed out and became greatly ill. I was hospitalized for about a month. I had to have my stomach pumped, and during the process of being drugged by the father I lost my baby.

My situation did not have a happy ending, and I deal with it as easily as I can, but I still have daily emotional struggles related to this traumatic time of my life. Like I said, my story isn't long and I don't remember much. All I remember is the tears I shed over the loss of my sweet little one.

Be careful what situations you get into. Happy endings don't always happen, especially like the ones shown on TV. Reality hurts more and reality has more troubles. Protect yourself. Don't let anyone take you for granted in any way. Being pregnant, being a young mother, and being a young woman losing your child can and will change you for the rest of your life.

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March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
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- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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