"Good Girl" Pressures

By Tayler, age 16, California

We so-called "good girls" hear it every day: "She's never done anything bad a day in her life." But that's not actually how we feel inside. We feel the pressure to meet the ideal standards of the girl the world wants us to be. I know that I am not perfect, nor as good as everybody seems to think I am. I have done things I am not proud of, and some things I regret.

The "good girls" you see every day do have problems in their lives. Yeah, maybe they are smart, pretty, skinny, and overall over-achievers, but it doesn't mean they do not have feelings too. In my experience, being called a "good girl" has sometimes made me block out my own personal feelings because I've felt that they don't meet society's expectations, what others want me to be.

Blocking out my emotions made me explode once, and it isn't pretty when we "good girls" have a breakdown because we don't know how to use our emotions, as we have learned to hold them back. I broke down one day because I did something wrong, and I couldn't handle all the looks that seemed to shout, "You're not supposed to do that. You're perfect, sweet, and innocent. You don't act like that."

In reality, I have a hard time speaking my mind, and when someone verbally attacks me, I don't really know how to respond. I have never learned how to verbally defend myself, so my mind usually just shuts down and I stand in place, frozen in time, while being verbally attacked. I cannot defend myself because I have never been cruel or mean to anyone. I am afraid to hurt people, afraid to say something terrible, and I feel that I would never be able to get those words out of my mouth.

Sometimes we "good girls" just wish we could escape to a place where we didn't have to meet the criteria of society around us. We have feelings too. We are human, and most definitely we would like not to be discriminated against.

Give us good girls a chance. We will surprise you, and once you really get to know us, you will know that we aren't really as "good" as we appear to be.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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