Summer Lovin'
By Pamela, age 25, South Africa
[Danny]
Summer lovin' had me a blast
[Sandy]
Summer lovin' happened so fast
[Danny]
I met a girl crazy for me
[Sandy]
Met a boy cute as can be
I'm sure you all know the movie Grease, about the summer romance between Sandy, a goody-goody Australian girl on holiday in the States, and Danny, a cool American biker boy. Long story short, they end up at the same high school, and their summer romance blossoms into a real romance (with lots of singing). This is the ideal summer romance story, but in real life summer romances are often confined to summer.
Blame it on the heat, or the bathing suits, or the fact that people are happier when on vacation, but there's something about summer romances. You go on vacation to the beach with your family, and you notice a cute guy lifeguard checking you out. You end up talking, and then meeting for a walk on the beach at sunset. You start having feelings for each other, and then suddenly you're a couple. But then, it's the day you have to go home, and back to reality. You promise to make it work, and keep in touch. But the minute you get home your summer romance becomes a summer fling.
Summer fling, don't mean a thing...
When you're on vacation you want to have fun, and summer romances are fun. They are almost like a game to see if you can have a summer romance while at the beach or wherever. Summer romances seem more intense because of the time pressure. You only go on vacation for a week or two, so you develop feelings very quickly. This sets the relationship up to fail, because it takes time to really get to know someone. Add to this the fact that you and your summer fling probably live miles apart. A long distance relationship isn't really going to work with someone you haven't built a firm foundation with in the first place.
My advice is to see summer romances for what they are - summer romances. Don't expect them to transfer into relationships when you go back home and your tan has faded. However, we all need a summer fling to look back on fondly. A bit of flirting will give you an ego boost, and is a good way to pass the time while sunning yourself on the beach.
Tips to Get You Summer Lovin':
1. Body Language
Smile and stand up straight. Try not to cross your arms over your chest, and keep your head level (don't look down too much). If you notice a cute guy checking you out, make eye contact for a few seconds, look away, and then look back at him.
2. Mingle
Join in activities at the place you are staying, such as dance classes (think Dirty Dancing), or snorkeling. Who knows, your instructor could turn out to be your summer romance! You can't meet you him if you're watching movies in your hotel room with the curtains closed. So get out there and mingle!
3. Have Fun
You go on vacation to have fun, so make sure you do things that you enjoy. If you like reading a magazine by the pool - do it. Enjoy your vacation, flirt a bit, and don't take summer romances too seriously!
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By Pamela, age 25, South Africa
[Danny]
Summer lovin' had me a blast
[Sandy]
Summer lovin' happened so fast
[Danny]
I met a girl crazy for me
[Sandy]
Met a boy cute as can be
I'm sure you all know the movie Grease, about the summer romance between Sandy, a goody-goody Australian girl on holiday in the States, and Danny, a cool American biker boy. Long story short, they end up at the same high school, and their summer romance blossoms into a real romance (with lots of singing). This is the ideal summer romance story, but in real life summer romances are often confined to summer.
Blame it on the heat, or the bathing suits, or the fact that people are happier when on vacation, but there's something about summer romances. You go on vacation to the beach with your family, and you notice a cute guy lifeguard checking you out. You end up talking, and then meeting for a walk on the beach at sunset. You start having feelings for each other, and then suddenly you're a couple. But then, it's the day you have to go home, and back to reality. You promise to make it work, and keep in touch. But the minute you get home your summer romance becomes a summer fling.
Summer fling, don't mean a thing...
When you're on vacation you want to have fun, and summer romances are fun. They are almost like a game to see if you can have a summer romance while at the beach or wherever. Summer romances seem more intense because of the time pressure. You only go on vacation for a week or two, so you develop feelings very quickly. This sets the relationship up to fail, because it takes time to really get to know someone. Add to this the fact that you and your summer fling probably live miles apart. A long distance relationship isn't really going to work with someone you haven't built a firm foundation with in the first place.
My advice is to see summer romances for what they are - summer romances. Don't expect them to transfer into relationships when you go back home and your tan has faded. However, we all need a summer fling to look back on fondly. A bit of flirting will give you an ego boost, and is a good way to pass the time while sunning yourself on the beach.
