Be Your True Self

By Dhvani, age 15, Oman
Sweet Designs Featured Writer

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There are times when we still think of that special someone, even though the relationship has been over for months. There are times when we cry and wonder if it was ever our fault and not his. But we can't really figure that out.

One major reason why boys break up with us is because we don't give them what they want. Another reason is they feel we're not being ourselves. Most boys, starting from the age of seventeen (or sooner), begin to wonder with whom will they ever have sex. These boys usually play along with our drama if all they want from us is sex. Well, most boys do anyway. But boys who actually care about us honestly come out and tell us that we're not being ourselves, or tell us to stop with all the drama.

Girls try to be whatever it is boys like. Skinny, tall, pretty, interested in this or that ... But some boys do like girls for who they really are. Just walk up to the boy, try talking to him, tell him about yourself, and don't always pretend that you're into the things he's into. Expressing your true self can make a lot of difference and can lead to a longer and better relationship. No matter what, just be you throughout and you will eventually start to like yourself.

Guys can be a major pain in the butt, because we're not giving them what they want. A lot of girls don't want to lose their virginity in high school. I wouldn't want to lose my virginity until I have really found that someone. Being fifteen, I still haven't had my first kiss. Girls usually have their first kiss by thirteen, but I guess I never found that someone.

Being in a relationship is all about giving, not only receiving. I'm not really trying to be a lecturer, but I've had the experience of being in a relationship long enough to have had my 500th kiss with the boy. I know, unbelievable. But he respected my limits, and he knew how far he was supposed to go with me. It didn't work out later on because he moved away. When we were together we were really close, and I miss him. I haven't seen him in two years now, and I'm hoping to see him soon. But we're still best buds and email each other all the time.

So, be whoever you want to be, do whatever you want to do. You can live any way you want, and that's one thing someone can't take away from you. (paraphrased from Be Your True Self)

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
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- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
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- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
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- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
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- The 30 hour famine
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- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
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- I don't care (poetry)
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