Be Your True Self
By Dhvani, age 15, Oman
Sweet Designs Featured Writer
One major reason why boys break up with us is because we don't give them what they want. Another reason is they feel we're not being ourselves. Most boys, starting from the age of seventeen (or sooner), begin to wonder with whom will they ever have sex. These boys usually play along with our drama if all they want from us is sex. Well, most boys do anyway. But boys who actually care about us honestly come out and tell us that we're not being ourselves, or tell us to stop with all the drama.
Girls try to be whatever it is boys like. Skinny, tall, pretty, interested in this or that ... But some boys do like girls for who they really are. Just walk up to the boy, try talking to him, tell him about yourself, and don't always pretend that you're into the things he's into. Expressing your true self can make a lot of difference and can lead to a longer and better relationship. No matter what, just be you throughout and you will eventually start to like yourself.
Guys can be a major pain in the butt, because we're not giving them what they want. A lot of girls don't want to lose their virginity in high school. I wouldn't want to lose my virginity until I have really found that someone. Being fifteen, I still haven't had my first kiss. Girls usually have their first kiss by thirteen, but I guess I never found that someone.
Being in a relationship is all about giving, not only receiving. I'm not really trying to be a lecturer, but I've had the experience of being in a relationship long enough to have had my 500th kiss with the boy. I know, unbelievable. But he respected my limits, and he knew how far he was supposed to go with me. It didn't work out later on because he moved away. When we were together we were really close, and I miss him. I haven't seen him in two years now, and I'm hoping to see him soon. But we're still best buds and email each other all the time.
So, be whoever you want to be, do whatever you want to do. You can live any way you want, and that's one thing someone can't take away from you. (paraphrased from Be Your True Self)