Doubt about the Date

By Kendyl, age 17, Tennessee

Some people are afraid of death, making decisions, pain, or missing out on life. Me? I was desperately afraid of not getting asked to the prom.

The school had started nudging us with gentle hints: walls blazoned with glittery posters and invitations sent on thick cardstock. Get your tickets now, they encouraged us. You don't want to end up alone.

I was terrified of ending up alone.

Everyone was starting to pair up. My friends were no longer single names. They became Emily-and-Jonathan, Bethany-and-Austin, Sarah-and-Stephen. Suddenly, I resented the fact that I was just me.

Not such a good way to think about yourself.

Why did it seem like I was the only one left dateless? Sure, there were other friends who were going solo, but all I could imagine was me in sweats watching Pretty in Pink once again while my friends danced the night away in dazzling gowns.

What I didn't realize was that thinking I needed a guy to have fun at my junior prom fell into the same category as thinking I needed to stay in the kitchen to have a productive life. I'm a feminist, so when did my views get lost in thoughts of classic tuxedos and sweet-smelling carnations? I needed a man no more than I needed a horse-drawn carriage and tiara to have a blast when that night comes.

Just as I had this realization, I did get asked and now plan on having a date, but I don't feel that my name has to have a hyphen attached to it. I'm just me.

And that's finally good enough for me.

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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