How to Get Over a Break-Up

By Isabella, age 14, New Jersey

As exhilarating as relationships can be, many end in breaking up. So much is invested in relationships that when they end, it leaves you feeling hurt, lonely, and abandoned. However, it's important to remember that this is something everyone experiences at least a couple times in a lifetime, and as painful as it can be now, it will only make you stronger as a person. In the meantime, here are some tips for getting over a break-up.

♥ Cry. It's important to give yourself time to release all the emotions you're experiencing, and there's no easier way to do that than to have some time alone and cry. Don't be afraid to let go of your feelings, but at the same time, don't let your grief at the end of the relationship go on too long. Take a certain period of time where you can cry, and then tell yourself once the time is up that you need to start moving on. How long this is varies from person to person, relationship to relationship, but the general rule is one day for every two months.

♥ Hide the reminders. Take down the photos, gifts, and anything else that has a strong connection to your ex. Put them in a box and tuck it away in a place where you won't see it. You might feel tempted to destroy the mementos, but hold off on that, because later on you may want to keep them and remember the good times.

♥ Focus on the good. It's easy to let yourself wallow in misery, but it's important that you let yourself think of all the good things in your life. Be with your friends, relax, and laugh. Watch a funny movie. Find a new hobby. Remember that as much as you're hurting, your ex wasn't your entire life. You can be just as happy without him or her.

♥ Give it time. You're not going to get over the break-up immediately. Healing is a process that requires time, but you may find yourself feeling normal again sooner than you might expect.

Of course, the most important thing to remember is that you don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend to define yourself. You're awesome and beautiful just the way you are, regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not. Love yourself, and the rest will follow.

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