Flirt Buddies?
By Mona, age 19, Philippines
Sweet Designs Featured Writer
Well, we broke up after about ten days, but it was because people told him he was a bad bf. But he really wasn't. He has an issue with showing affection in public, i.e. school, so he barely ever walked with me, but when we got home he would text me and be really sweet. Well, it's been about 4 months since we broke up and he and I are "flirt buddies" again, and he says I am hot all the time and he and I are supposed to hang out during spring break. So my question is, does he like me?
Miranda, 14
Dear Miranda,
You have yourself a guy who's unsure of himself. The problem with a guy like that is he is really not sure what he wants in life. That's why he just wants to be "flirt buddies" because he knows that if he is in a serious relationship with someone, he won't have the chance to be around other girls he also thinks are cute and funny.
I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think he likes you in the way you think. This guy does not like any girl but likes all girls. He does not want to show PDA because he's afraid that other girls he might also be in contact with might see him and think that he's cheating. No matter how sweet he is, at the end of the day, he's still what people call a "player". That sweetness he shows is all just a game and it would be bad if you fell for it. He says that he loves you and does not go out with you for 2 weeks. I mean, what is that about? He's not taking your relationship seriously. If he did like you, then you wouldn't have broken up after 10 days and he wouldn't have wanted to be flirt buddies again. If he did like you, he would have already asked you to be his girlfriend. The whole spring break thing is just for show.
So, your answer is yes, he likes you, but not in the way you think. I think you should just move on and meet other people because, believe me, there are a lot out there. Good luck!
Mona
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After Rejection
Well, I really like this guy, and I confessed to him a year ago, but I got rejected. Then we went to 11th grade / year 11 and I started to hate him. One day my friend told me I still have feelings for him, but I denied it. Later I noticed she was right, but I didn't want to admit it because after the rejection he was kinda mean to me which was painful. I tried my best to stay away from him, but he's in nearly all my classes *sighs*. He asked for my number one time which was a shock for me. Also, when it was the end of term in school everyone was hugging each other goodbye and then he stood in front of me, opened his arms, and said,"come here." My heart skipped a beat. I was very happy but I do not want to get my hopes up at all. My friends think it's best to move on. I think so too. My mind says yes but my heart says no.
What am I supposed to do? :/
Bobbi, 16
Dear Bobbi,
Your friend is right. You should move on. If at the very beginning he rejected you, then that is already a clear answer. He does not want to be with you.
I know the feeling. For me, it's 'my heart says yes but my mind says no'. I have that all the time, and every time I go for it because I always follow my heart, I have been disappointed. I think both mind and heart need to agree.
When a guy likes you, then he'll go out of his way to spend time with you and never rejects you. Knowing that he was being mean to you is totally unacceptable. I would totally move on and never feel for someone like that again. You're a lady, and ladies should not be treated that way. If you go pining for him after he rejects you, then you will just look desperate. So go and move on. I'm sure there is someone better out there for you. Believe that because it's true. You just have to be patient.
Mona
