Marriage Vs. Weddings
By Joanna, age 20, South Wales, United Kingdom
Sweet Designs Featured Writer
Having grown up with a family such as mine (my parents have recently celebrated their silver wedding anniversary) probably has a lot to do with my ideas on marriage. I believe it should be a partnership between two people who love each other and support each other through anything, where no obstacle is too much for them to handle and there are plenty of happy memories and laughter to share. However, some people I've spoken to on the subject think differently. A conversation with some friends struck me, and I realised just how differently everyone seems to live, as some friends have parents who are still together unhappily or parents who appear to be happy despite regularly arguing. Other friends come from broken homes, which is a whole different lifestyle and childhood altogether.
My sister, who was planning a wedding with her fiancé a few months ago, despite obviously having grown up in the same household with the same role model of marriage put before us, seems to think very differently on the subject than I do. Being overwhelmed and swept up in what colour bridesmaids she should have, what style of dress, and who should be invited and sat near whom, I listened to her plans, as is my sisterly duty, but I couldn't help wondering a few things as she talked. What does it really matter what colour dresses your bridesmaids have if you're entering into a lifelong partnership with the person you love? What does it matter who sits where as long as the people you care about and love are present to share in the celebrations?
Okay, so a wedding is (ideally) a once in a lifetime day, an event that you never forget, and supposedly the happiest day of your life. So I understand that ideally everything should be perfect, but how often do plans in life really go the way you expected or mapped out? And what could be more perfect than marrying the person you love?