The "D" Word

By Emily, age 19, Newfoundland
Sweet Designs Featured Writer

So when we think about the word marriage, what do we think? Love, commitment, and yes, even sex. But when we go to a wedding, do we think, "I wonder how long it will be before the divorce?" Well, maybe occasionally, but in reality, divorce has taken over the western world.

The Census Bureau in the United States claims that 43% of marriages are doomed to fail. That's pretty high, people! It's pretty tough being a kid with divorced parents, especially when your parents fought more after they divorced than they did when they were married. I should know. I've been there.

When I was 9, my parents started fighting more and more. One evening, they came to me and explained that they just weren't getting along anymore. I can remember the devastation that I felt. I had always wanted that perfect "Brady Bunch" family, and now my family was falling apart.

Getting used to the whole idea of switching houses was the hardest. My mom moved only 15 minutes away from my dad's house where my brother and I lived for the most part. They used to meet in a public place, so that if a fight occurred there would be people to intervene. It was a good thing. My parents constantly fought. Eventually they even had to have police escorts witness the switching from one parent's care to the other.

In the meantime my brother and I saw my mom on Wednesdays and every other weekend. We had to take clean clothes with us every time, and looking back it was pretty inconvenient. A lot of things got lost in translation.

I think the worst part was that I was too young to understand the situation. My little brother was only one when my parents decided to get a divorce, and even though we thought that he didn't understand, it became evident in his behavior that he really did. As for myself, all I knew was that I was tired of having to deal with it. I didn't know why they divorced or why they fought so much, and it was just frustrating! Soon my school started seeing problems with my behavior too.

The point is, if your parents are getting divorced or are already divorced, don't sweat it too much. Yeah, your parents aren't going to be together anymore, but it could be a good thing. They might fight less and even get along better. Who knows?

But the important thing is to be mature. Life will go on as you know it and things will get better. And who knows? Your parents might end up marrying really nice people!

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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