By Emily, age 19, Newfoundland
Sweet Designs Featured Writer
For all of you who are daring enough, I'm going to give you a very simple scenario. You go to a party one evening. Whether it be a tame or wild party, nonetheless you go to this party, where you meet a guy and he makes you smile. He's the perfect gentleman and talks about all your interests. You can feel your cheeks burning as he asks to talk in a more private area. You head into someone's bedroom, and even though your intentions were just to talk, suddenly all of your clothes are on the floor and things have gotten hot and heavy. When it's all over, you give him your number and he promises to call you.
I might not wait by the phone, but I'd certainly make sure to take my cell everywhere I went, just in case he called. After all, he promised.
But a week goes by, and he's MIA. Suddenly you come to a painful realization. All he wanted was sex.
I've seen it a million times. The girl thinks that this charming guy has fallen for her just like she fell for him. The guy is cute and funny and intelligent, and it all seems a bit too good to be true. In reality, it is.
These guys that we girls like to call "players" prey on insecure girls. This doesn't mean that they're not the prettiest or the skinniest or the nicest or even the smartest. They could be all or some of these things, but it really doesn't matter to these players. They listen to what you say and make sure to use it later in conversation, picking out the most perfect things to say to get you going.
These players don't respect you. They don't want to be monogamous and they certainly don't want to be tied down in a relationship. So the next time a guy approaches you, proceed with caution. He may actually be the boy next door, but if he tries to touch you in a place you're uncomfortable with, get out of the situation right away.
Some key things to watch for:
♥ He talks about how often he works out or how "well endowed" he his. This is his way of trying to impress you.
♥ He takes off his shirt for no reason. Not only is he trying to impress you, but he's also trying to get the ball rolling.
♥ He places his hand in a seemingly innocent place and then slowly begins moving it toward a not so innocent place. Either ask him to remove his hand or just leave. You have the choice.
♥ Watch for the phrase, "I would definitely consider having a relationship with you." He's trying to make that sound like a good thing, but he's basically saying, "I'm not interested in having a relationship with you."
♥ He comes out and asks if you'd like to do anything sexual with him. This is self-explanatory.
So now that you're all enlightened, don't be overcautious because that could scare the nice guys away. Instead, just listen very carefully and make sure you like where the conversation is going. And even after that, make sure you get to know a guy really well before you start any sort of physical relationship.
It's always better to be safe than sorry!