Getting Close to Guys
By Mia, age 17, North Carolina
Sweet Advice Featured Columnist
My group of friends and I are considered the popular girls in our grade. There are five to seven of us. We are all new freshmen at a boarding school and haven't been able to become close to any of the guys in our grade. However, the other group of freshmen girls has. The difference is the maturity level; those girls seem to screw around more and do stupid stuff, but I mean props to them for having fun. We are not at all serious, we just have fun in different ways. Anyway, how can we become close to the guys in our grade?
Getting 'close' to someone is done by means of talking and getting to know them, showing interest in their daily lives - making yourself available to them. Introduce yourself, mention things you like, ask them about things they like, and see if there's common ground for conversation. Something as simple as a band can start a 3 hour long conversation.
Yes, props to anyone who wants to and has fun, but sometimes things we do now we regret later. Have fun in different ways; there are guys out there who don't just want a girl to screw around with or fling themselves onto him. You just need to meet the right people, and the only way to do that is to make yourself available and show interest in things they like. Pull a 'Legally Blonde' (with less butt popping) - drop a pencil in front of him or lose a paper near him. Ask for help with a subject. Just little gestures to show you want to talk or you're open to talk.