Wanna Know If He Likes You? Just Ask!
By Kate, age 19, New Hampshire
Sweet Designs Staff Intern
Sweet Designs Featured Writer
Stephanie, 15
Stephanie,
To answer your question - no, no one can tell you what to think. That's the beauty (and sometimes horror) of thinking - it's all you, girl! But in all seriousness, if you think he might like you back, then maybe he does.
I can tell you one thing for sure - don't Google "ways to tell if a boy likes you." I know it might be hard to tell and you don't want to take that risk, but in reality, there is no "How-to" book on guys. There's no definite thing a guy does that means he likes you. Every guy is different and every guy reacts to things differently. Just because one guy might have the courage to ask you out, doesn't mean all guys do. This guy could be one of those guys. Or, maybe he just sees you as a friend. You don't know. I know, that can be a scary thing. Should you make the first step? But you don't want to be embarrassed when he says he doesn't like you. But if you don't ask, you'll never know, right?
What's the worst that could happen? He says he doesn't like you, right? No big deal, life goes on. The point is, you won't know until you ask. Just because he shows "signs" of liking you, doesn't mean anything. Maybe he's just a nice guy. I can't stress this enough - just ask! You'll feel a lot better than you did in the end, even if it's not what you want to hear. At least you will know.
Most importantly - if he does say no, don't get all torn up over up it! It's only high school, and I can guarantee you will find some really awesome guy someday. :)
Kate
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Ok, in 7th grade I dated this new boy. I really liked him, but so did my friends. I broke up with him because all my friends liked him and were mad at me. Also, people were betting we would break up. He was my first bf. We were gonna kiss that day but I told my friends I might break up with him, but they walked into class doing broken heart signs and he thought they meant it. I never had the courage to tell him. Now I'm in 8th grade. We still don't talk and I'm still madly in love with him. The problem is he has a gf and really loves her and is already talking about marriage!!! I'm too scared to talk to him. What should I do?
Megan, 13
Megan,
In all honesty - forget him! You're not even in high school yet, and I can guarantee that his new girlfriend won't last very long. I can't believe they're talking about marriage! I'm in college and I'm not even talking about marriage! That's just a silly thing for 8th graders to be talking about. You have a whole life ahead of you, another school, college, jobs ... You know how many guys you are going to be meeting? A LOT!!! And he's going to be meeting a lot of other girls, too. Plus, he might even decide he still likes you. There might even be a chance you guys get together again in high school.
Don't lose any sleep over this kid! It's okay to still like him, but don't limit yourself. In another year, you're going to be meeting so many more people. If things don't work out between you and him, it's not the end of the world.
All I can say is keep your head up and keep looking forward. And if you want to, send him a message - say hi, and ask how he's doing. Start talking to him again, but don't let your feelings get the best of you. Don't tell him you miss him, because right now, you just have to start over. Become friends again, and who knows what could happen!
Kate
