REAL LIFE: ADVICE

Parents Divorcing, Father Leaving the Country

By Kate, age 19, New Hampshire
Sweet Designs Staff Intern
Sweet Designs Featured Writer

My mom and dad told us they were going to get a divorce 3 months ago, but then they said they wouldn't, and now they said that they will get a divorce, but only my dad wants it, and he broke my mom's heart. My mom has been fine for a couple of days, but then she called him and he said that he's going to leave the country for some job (the third time) and he won't be living where we are anymore. Now my mom is going kind of crazy, and I'm really scared she might lose it. HELP ME!

Amit, 13


Amit,

Divorce is never easy for anyone. I may not have experienced it myself, but I have friends who have been in a similar situation to yours, and I know how hard it is for them. No one wants to see their parents separate, but if they aren't working out together, you don't want to see them suffer and fight, either.

Right now, I think your mom really just needs a friend. She's going through a lot. She's broken hearted, sad, nervous, probably even stressing out. With your dad leaving, it will put a lot of stress on her to keep the house and provide for the family. If both your parents work, you had two incomes to pay bills, groceries, etc. Now, you're down to one, and it can be a frustrating experience.

Sit down with your mom, give her a big hug, and talk to her. Let her know you're there for her and you support her. Take on some extra chores around the house to help out. I know you're only thirteen and probably too young for a job at the moment, but help out in any way you can. You're going to need each other now more than ever.

I hope things go well for you and your family. We're here for you if you need someone to talk to!

Kate

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My Best Friends Don't Approve of the Guy I Like

Okay, so I like this one guy who just recently became single, and my friends know that I like him and that he likes me, but they say he is the wrong guy for me and I can do better. But I don't know if I want to do better, and I am afraid that if we start going out they will hate me, but I really like him. What should I do?

Kienna, 14


Kienna - never be afraid of a silly boy! If he decides he doesn't like you, it's not the end of the world. There are tons of guys out there! Millions! Billions! Just because it doesn't work out with one, doesn't mean it won't with someone else. And if it doesn't work out, you will find better, just like your friends say!

On that note, don't let your friends try to control your life. Of course, they are just looking out for you. But I say go for it! Like I said, if things don't work out, it's not the end of the world. Move on to the next guy. You have your whole life ahead of you to meet guys, so have some fun!

Kate

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