They're Not All the Same

By Shanice, age 15, South Africa
Sweet Designs Featured Writer

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Last year at this time (February 2011), I wrote an article on "How to Spot a Player." Now, I have still met players after that - far too many for my liking. In fact, I spent my summer dodging advances from several of their kind.

The result? I made new male friends I knew were regular heartbreakers. But the best part for me was knowing that I had evaded heartache again.

Now I'm not saying that all males are bad. Yes, these guys were terrible. But the amount of concern my other male friends showed was astonishing. Being no stranger to the world of players, I knew what I was doing. I was confident that this time, the player would not win. My 'decent' male friends weren't so confident.

They went to the greatest extent possible to keep me away - distracting me, counseling me, etc. I was touched by the gesture. Yes, I was one of the many girls who had absolutely nothing nice to say about the male species. "Men are dogs" could possibly be my catchphrase. But after seeing how loyal my friends were to me, I'm starting to rethink it.

Yes, there are heartbreakers out there. I've lost count of how many I've encountered over this summer. But there are good guys out there. We tend to ignore them, either just seeing them as friends only or because we've been too hurt by the bad guys out there and we are too scared to try again.

Yes, they get hurt by us too. They have long-time crushes on girls. (I was shocked by this!) The thing is, guys are human, just like us. They have feelings, emotions, and a heart. They care. They love. They hurt.

So the next time you're about to mention how all males are the same, stop and really think about it. Is it possible that you're just hanging out with the wrong guys?

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February & March Magazine Issues

March 15, 2012

The February and March issues of Sweet Designs Magazine are now online, featuring a combined 53 new articles and features!!

- Cover: Stephanie Lynn reflects on 5 years
- Cover: India (of Darn-licious knitwear)
- Life in the dumps (moving in with my bf)
- The difference between men and women
- Angels among us (parts 1 and 2)
- Arts graduates & the dark night of the soul
- Triple threat (how I survived my teen yrs)
- Dating isn't easy (my true story)
- How to turn not-so-great gifts ... (fashion)
- Ten reasons to love being single
- Taking the big leap (college)
- Valentine's Day (not what you'd expect!)
- The last of the cold (hopefully) (fashion)
- A month full of love
- Ten tips for successful airline travel
- Reasons I love writing for SDM
- Who needs love?
- They're not all the same
- The life I'm glad I don't have (fiction)
- Professional dress/ finding Fendi (fashion)
- An airport anniversary: a true story
- Inappropriate Facebook photos
- The perks of a big city (college)
- A night(mare) to forget (part 2)
- The Anita Blake series (book review)
- Saving June by Hannah Harrington (book)
- Under the Mesquite by GG McCall (book)
- The Lullaby by Sarah Dessen (book)
- If I Stay by Gayle Foreman (book review)
- My sweetheart (original poetry)
- Isn't it funny (original poetry)
- The stranger (original poetry)
- A winter wonderland (original poetry)
- One night valentine
- The thick envelopes (college acceptance)
- Southern love
- Healthy hair and vitamins
- It's a date (dating idea alternatives)
- The 30 hour famine
- School's out forever!
- Marching right back into spring? (fashion)
- Dear John
- When TV shows depict your life
- 3 Fun ways to rock spring's hottest trends
- Neglected teeth
- Starting something new
- Guy movies
- To hesitate or dive in?
- Deadly, by Julie Chibbaro (book review)
- Beastly, by Alex Flinn (book review)
- I don't care (poetry)
- Together, alone (poetry)

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