By Stephanie Lynn
Talking in Real Life - What a Concept!
Well, there's this guy. He's in yr 9. He goes to my school and all, and we chat over the net all the time. I like him, yeh, but I can't go and talk to him. I don't know why. He hangs out with most of the yr 8 "cool" people. And I keep thinking that like, if I go and talk to him, then they would all think, "Why is she talking to him? She doesn't hang here." Or something along those lines. I just really wanna talk to him in real life, not on the net. It's bugging me. I'm beating myself up every time I get the chance, but then miss it. What can I do to talk to him without seeming like a real noob?
Wow! Haven't we all been through this? You know, now that the internet has really been taken in by the modern man, we've become really dependant, and it's not for the better either. I sometimes wonder to myself how the past generations lived without internet. Everyone tells secrets online, and some people even ask each other out through cyberspace. I mean, everyone's too "embarrassed" to say it to the other person in real life, and it's sort of devastating that people would sink to such a low level and simply type up what they have to say, as if it would make a difference.
Cassie, how did you meet him? Probably in person, right? I mean, don't start telling me people meet other people online too! And that's an advantage you should take, along with the many personal conversations you've had online (which may help you get close to him.) Okay, since you talk to him online so much, you can try setting up a little get together by saying something like, "Hey! I haven't seen you in a longgg time. Wanna meet up?! I wanna meet your friends too!" That way, you'd get to spend time with him without making it seem like the internet would be the only connection you guys will ever have. And adding the "bring his friends" part will not only help you get to know them and create a friendship with them, but it'll show the boy that you're interested in not only in his personal life, but also his social life as well. I hope this helps a bit :] Good luck to you!
He Just Stopped Talking to Me
Well, there's this guy I like, and he changed his phone number and doesn't text me anymore. I don't know what to do 'cause I really like him, and I don't know why he's not talking to me. He just stopped talking to me. Why? I didn't do anything wrong, and it seemed like he liked me when I used to hang out with him. So what happened? It's dumb. I try not to think about him, but I do sometimes, and I sometimes cry.
It sounds to me like this guy is a bit of a jerk. I know that you really like him, and it's kind of hard to think of him as a bad person, but he obviously is. It is probably going to upset you at times when you start to think about him because I can tell that you really care, but I think you can do better than him. There are many more fish in the sea, and I can almost guarantee that one of those fish is going to be a lot less slimy than this one.
Honey, been there, done that. What I would advise you to do is back off a little. Not to sound too harsh, but guys pull away the more you pull in. Guys don't like a girl who is always calling, texting or chasing after them. They like a little chase. So instead of calling him or texting him, constrain yourself and call a friend instead. If he really likes you, trust me, he will find a way to get in contact with you. If you have given him a month and he does not call, maybe he's just not that interested. Oh and the thing about you crying ... you must learn to be strong. Believe me on this - no guy, I mean NO GUY, is worth your tears. Sometimes you have to forgive and forget, and trust me there's always a hundred cuter guys out there. There's bound to be one who treats you like a total princess ;]
Luvv & Kisses,
If a guy does something like that he's not worth your tears or time. Don't worry about him. If you really wanna know though ... just ask him. Call his house. See if a friend has his new number or just see if you can meet up with him somewhere. But any guy who just pushes you off like that isn't worth your time. Also, don't get too mad or upset because he might have just broken his phone. You never know.
I Was with an Older Guy - Now He Won't Talk to Me
Well, there's this guy that I like, and well, he's older than me. Well, he asked me if I wanted to hang out, so I gave him my number, then he called me, and for two nights we talked, then he asked me to this party, and I went with him. At the party we hung out and made out and did stuff, and then he drove me home. The following Monday he wouldn't talk to me, and he still won't. What should I do? Should I talk to him? Wait for him to talk to me? I asked two of my guy friends for advice. One of them said that he either hated me and thought that I was annoying or else he liked me. The second one said that I should wait for him to talk to me. So what do I do? HELP!!! PLEASE thanks.
A friend of mine was in the same situation. When she was 14, she started dating a guy who was 17, and now she is 15 and has a baby daughter with her 18 year old on-again, off-again boyfriend. So what I suggest, first of all, is to not go any further with him than 'making out and doing stuff'.
And if he isn't talking to you, maybe that's for the best, since he is older than you, and that creates many problems. For example, your parents probably won't like it. He will be graduating and turning 18 before you (making that 'stuff' illegal). And even without the risk of jail time (for him) or pregnancy, in today's day and age, the risks of STDs would be enough to turn me off.
So I advise that you not talk to him, and if he talks to you, turn him down. Tell him that you're too young to be with him and that you made a mistake in accepting his offer that night, even if it means him telling other people things that aren't true. You being safe and without babies or diseases is far more important than a few of his buddies thinking bad about you. I hope this helps.
I really like this guy and we've been friends for a long time. We're not close friends though. Just friends =] ever since 1st grade.
I tried asking him out, but he rejected me. Things have been a little awkward for me when I'm around him. I stopped liking for a while, but then I started to like him again. After the rejection though, I've talked to him little by little, and we almost became close friends one time. But nothing really changed.
I can tell that 2 of my other friends like him. I want to tell him that I like him again, but I'm scared that he might not like me back like last time. One of his best friends is also one of my best friends, and I told him that I liked him. He says that I should tell him.
The problem is that I'm only going to see him one more time, and then we're gonna be going to different high schools. I really want to tell him that I like him, but I don't want to have a long distance relationship or be rejected.
All of my friends say to go for it, but I'm not the type of girl to just speak my mind. Sorry for writing you a lot, but I really need help!
If you have a crush you always need to spill it. It's always better to let someone know how you feel instead of always wondering "What if?" So what if you're not one to speak your mind? I'm advising you to speak your feelings. Let him know, and if you're rejected, two words: his loss. Don't worry about it.
His Friends Say He's Cheating on Me
Well, to start off, I met this guy at this town my family goes to for Labor Day. I only saw him for three days and we are still dating (9 months!). We're so in love. I tell my mom that I really like him and he really likes me back, and I want to see him because I haven't seen him in 9 months. But she isn't too sure about it. So there's really no way to see him.
His so-called friends always tell me he's cheating on me, which I know he would never do. So his friends are always trying to break us up because they want to have sex with me (since I only knew my boyfriend for a little while before we did "stuff").
There is really no way to talk to him because he lives with his dad and his dad doesn't like me. So he waits until like 10 at night to talk. But with school and work sometimes he's too tired to call. And he doesn't have a Myspace. He does have a cell phone, but every time I call it goes all wacko. What do I do?!
Have you told your mom how you feel about him? Ask him to talk to his dad about how he feels about you. See if his dad would bring him to visit you. If his friends tell you that he's cheating on you and you trust him, don't worry about it. But if there's any doubt make sure you ask and find out! His cell goes wacko? Have you guys tried text messaging?
Hope this helped,
I Cheated on Him - Now He Won't Talk to Me
Well, I was going out with my boyfriend for a while, but then I cheated on him. I didn't know what I was doing. I felt bad 'cuz I did. I then broke up with him. I really liked him so much, and I thought that I didn't deserve him b'cuz I was a messed up person for cheating on him. He was very sad and mad 'cuz I broke up with him. I didn't want to tell him I cheated 'cuz I knew he would be really upset, and I didn't want him thinkin' bad of me. After that we still talked and everything was fine. It was like we were still going out.
All of a sudden he just stopped calling me, and then 2 weeks later he called me. I was confused, but then we started talking again. He told his ex-gf he hated me and that he didn't want to talk to me anymore. I overheard b'cuz I was in the other line, and I started to cry. After that I didn't talk to him, but then he called me. I was so confused and mad, but we started talking again.
Then one of my closest friends was talking to him and he told her he still had feelings for me, and then I was really happy. We started talking again, and then everything was going fine. Then later he stopped talking to me again!! And then I heard that he hated me and all this stuff he'd told my friend Daisy, and I was sad, but then he said he found out something I thought he was never going to find out. I guess it was that I had cheated on him.
Now he doesn't talk to me. I tried writing to him, but he just writes really messed up things back. But I really like him, like you have no idea, and I really want him back. I don't know what to do anymore!! I know I messed up, but he doesn't even give me a chance to explain.
You cheated on your boyfriend? You need to learn from that and don't repeat it. My advice is to call your ex and tell him what you did, but ask him to hear you out. Then ask him about what you heard. Instead of going through a friend, always go straight to the source. It's harder, but you get the "for-sure" answer. If he hangs up on you or doesn't listen, then try once more.
Think of it this way ... It was a mistake to cheat on him, but he really doesn't care enough about you to find out why.
I Wanna Be Single, But I Don't Wanna Hurt Him
I'm dating this one guy I really like, but I don't even love him! I want to be single, but I don't want to hurt his feeling too! And I'm kind of liking someone else. What should I do? HELP ME!
If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, then don't leave him hanging. Let him know. Because you could end up hurting him worse if you let him stay in your life longer and let his feelings for you grow stronger. Just tell him flat out how you feel. Say something like "Hey, I'm really sorry, but I don't feel like I should be in a relationship right now, and I don't want to keep you hanging on like I am. I just want a break from dating. I don't know what I want right now, so I would love it if we could try and be friends or something."
Don't You Disrespect My Brother
Ok, so I really like this boy. I think I've had a crush on him since I was little. He is my brother's age and we're only two years apart. Well, they both play sports, and ever since I was little, I would always see him at baseball parks or at football games. It was just a little crush at the time, then once they got into high school I would see him a lot more, and it started becoming an even bigger crush, except he didn't even know me. He knew me only as my brother's "little sister".
Well, once I got into high school (which was this year), he noticed me, and we started talking at a point, as in dating, but then my brother found out from all their friends who told him, and he got upset. He told the boy I liked that he'd better stop talking to me and to stay away from me. Well, he listened to my brother, and for a week he didn't talk to me.
I was super sad, then the following week he started talking to me again, but it was like behind my brother's back. Well, after a while he finally decided that he would ask my brother for permission to talk to me, and my brother surprisingly said it was alright - just to be careful with me and take care of me. Well, we talked, as in dating, but it never went anywhere as in terms of a relationship, and after a while I have no idea what happened, but we slowly just stopped talking to each other.
Well, once I started dating another boy, he came back trying to talk to me, knowing I was already getting into a relationship. At that time that boy and I weren't official yet. We were just casually dating and getting to know each other. Well, my crush knew I liked the other boy, and he still tried doing anything to get my attention back. Well, finally I just told him to give up and that I really liked this other boy I was talking to. Well, now this boy and I aren't dating any more, and I sort of regret pushing my crush away.
Now it's been a while since I've talked to my crush, but just recently I saw him at one of my soccer games, and he was watching me play. Then after my game he tried talking to me again, and, of course, I fell right back for him. We've been talking for a while, but not in the dating kinda way, and I think he likes me by all the things he says and does, but never actually have I heard the words "I like you" come out of his mouth. Idk if he likes me or not, or he is too shy to tell me. I have no idea how to tell him I like him, and I guess I'm the same way ... too shy. It's like a never-going-away crush that I have for him. What do I do? Do I tell him, or just wait to see if he tells me first?
If your brother said that to the guy you liked, and he's known him longer,
don't you think he knew something about him that you didn't? Brothers usually try
to do what's best for their sisters. So ask your brother about it and see what he
Now about you being shy, listen, girly!!! Being shy is cute sometimes, but if you have feelings for someone you spill it out and cross your fingers!!! The worst you could hear is, "No, I don't like you." But there's so many other guys out there you could get to know. Just give them a chance!!
My Friends Say He's Cheating
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. We go to
different schools, so we don't have a lot of time together. He used to
always want to be around me, but about a week ago I called to see if he
wanted to hang out with me, and he said that he had a few friends over
[boys and girls], so I asked if I could go, and he said no. My friends
say that he has been cheating on me, but I don't think he is because I
know he loves me. I don't want to break up with him because we have been
together for so long, but I'm afraid if I don't I'll lose some of my
friends. What should I do??
First off, you're only in high school. "Love" is a pretty strong word.
Second, if your friends are good friends, they will not just drop you
because of this guy. They are probably just frustrated because this guy
is fooling around and they don't want to see you get hurt. I think this
guy isn't very good if he doesn't want you around his friends.
Relationships outside of the same school can be very difficult, and I am
very impressed that you have made it this far. If you really feel that
you two are in love then you need to tell him how you feel. If he keeps
leaving you out then it's time to test the rest of the water.
Is It Possible to Be Too Popular??
Well, here's my problem: I am 14, and I am just going into high school. Well, my 8th grade
year every guy wanted to go out with me, and everyone asked me out, and I would say yes to one
guy and dump him the next day. I went out with so many guys cause I liked them all. My friends
say I should be single, but the point is I'm with my boyfriend Sammy, but I don't know if I can
handle having a boyfriend next year, cause I can't make up my mind about guys. What should I do?
First off, high school is a really, really big deal going in at first. But once you're in,
things get easier as they get harder. If you feel like you couldn't handle a relationship in the
first part of high school, tell your boyfriend that and talk about it. I'm sure if he cares about
you he will understand!!!!
If You Wanna Know ... Just Ask!
So there's this guy I met a while ago, and he's really cute. I recently started crushing
on him ... big time. I kinda think he likes me 'cause he's asked if I'm single, and other stuff
like if I drink or do drugs, and if I feel like I'm ready to go into a relationship. We talk
online a lot and always have a great conversation. I can't tell if he likes me ... It seems
like he does, but it also seems like he's out of my league. I'm really confused. I'd love some
advice to help me through this.
If want to know if a guy likes you just ask!! It's not that hard, I promise!!! No guy is ever
out of any girl's league - that's just hog-wash. It's like labels - they don't mean anything.
Dating, Relationships, Friendships ... it's all about your feelings going along with some else's.
Just ask! That's all the advice I can give!!
How Do I Tell Him I Love Him??
Ok, soo I'm like always stressed. I feel as though nothing ever goes right for me. I mean,
I have friends that I love and they love me. I have a good family, but something's missing ...
a boy! Soo I'm in love with a guy named Austin, and we have been friends since 4th grade (we are
in 10th grade now!), and last year we tried to go out, but it didn't really work out. I'm still
in love with him, and I don't know how to tell him. What should I do??
That's a long time to be friends with someone. You tried dating? Want my honest opinion? You
need to figure out your true deep down emotions. Because when I dated my best friend of 11 years,
it didn't work out either, but I found out why later on. Turned out I did love him, but as a
brother. Someone I could confide all my problems too. I trust him not to blab to the whole world.
If you sincerely think that your feelings are truly love, then you need to tell him. Who knows,
maybe he thinks the same thing!! Don't ever be afraid to say how you really feel.
What's Really Going On Here??
Well, I have this guy who's 17, and I'm 15. He met my parents and they really like
him, so I'm allowed to date him now. Last night we went to the drive-in, and we kissed,
hugged, cuddled, etc. Then this morning he tells me he can't date until he's 18. Well, I
think that is crap because he has dated girls before. Why would his mom pick now to say he
can't date? His mom thinks he is using me for sex, but he isn't. I really like this guy,
but I don't know if he even wanted to go out with me in the first place. He says he does
still wants to go out with me and he says he still loves me. He also said that we can be
best friends. I can't be best friends with someone I can't date. I don't know what to do.
Can you help me? I'm desperate! =(
Maybe this guy really does only want you for sex and he's trying to keep you from getting
hurt. To me it sounds like a mom would know more about her son than you do. You can like
someone a lot, but when it comes down to it, it's about his real intentions with you. I know
it's hard, but if that's how it's going to be, try to move on and work with it. You can always
try to be friends. It won't hurt to try. If he loves you and he's asking you to be friends,
he's probably trying to do what's best for you.
We Played Spin the Bottle
I like this guy and I have for a year. In a game of spin-the-bottle we were forced to kiss,
and when we did it turned out we started making out. But since then talking to him has been awkward,
and I know he feels it too. Now how am I ever gonna admit to him that I secretly like him?
If you like a guy, just tell him. Sometimes guys are blind to the hints we throw, then we get
all mad at them when it's not really their fault. If you want someone to know how you feel sometimes
you just have to say it. Always be true to your own feelings. It's like following your heart - you'll
never go wrong. Of course, it will be awkward, but if you don't tell him, you'll always be stuck with
wondering "What if?"
He Hasn't Called
My boyfriend and I are having some problems. Okay, what happened was he hasn't call me in like
two days, and we normally talk every day, and we've been getting into fights about really stupid stuff!
I love him so much and he loves me, and I don't want to lose him. I just don't know what to do!! Please
Two days? Don't be so scared, something probably came up. Every couple will have those fights about
nothing just to bicker. Just talk to him about how you feel. Everything should work itself out in time.
I'm Shy & He Doesn't Know I Exist
I've liked this guy for a while now, but I don't even think he knows I exist. I'm really shy around people I don't know too well, and I don't want to make a fool out of myself by telling him I like him, especially if he doesn't like me back. What should I do?
Being shy is no fun. I know! If you like someone, just talk to him a little bit and get to know him before you "jump". Guys are like us girls - we like to get to know people before we make a final judgement. Maybe he's waiting on you too make the move. Example: My new boyfriend is terribly shy!! When we first met, all he could do was smile and blush. I started talking to him and he got to know me. We really hit it off. It was a lot of fun meeting someone new. (Hint: When you start talking and getting to know someone the shyness wears off.) So he called me a couple days later and asked me out, we went out, and I'm the happiest I've ever been. The key hint here is to never be too shy to find out what you wanna know. You're a girl, you're pretty, you're smart, and you should be confident about all that!!
Do I Dump My BF for This Other Guy?
Well, I'm going out with this guy. I like him but I don't love him. Then there's this guy I've had a crush on for a year, and we always have eye contact and sometimes he flirts with me. My boyfriend is so sweet and I like him, but I don't love him as much as I love the other guy. But I don't want to break his heart or anything. What do I do?
Sometimes in relationships feelings get old, and when something new or exciting comes along, something we've never tried, it seems better at the time. But ask yourself this when the new wears off - what are you left with? If you don't love your boyfriend, then don't keep hanging on to him. Let him move on. If you really think that when the new wears off with this other guy it will be more than just an exciting attraction, then I say go for it! But don't expect your boyfriend to sit by waiting for you. Once he's gone, he's gone. When it all comes down to it, it's all about following your heart.
Best Of Luck,
How Do I Get It Started?
Ok, well I like two guys right now, and I really want to start talking to them. One is in a higher grade than me, and the other one is in my grade. I barely talk to either of them, but I would really like to. I mean I've like had lil' convos. with both of them, but no serious convos about anything important, and I would REALLY like to get to know them. How should I do this?
You like two guys? Ugh, I know how that is. So you want to be able to talk to them and get to know them better? Start with a "Hello" or a "Hi, how are you?" In the hallway at school, smile before you walk away. Smiles always leave lasting impressions. Be confident when you talk to them. Then start conversations with "How are you? How have you been? So what are you doing this weekend?" Find out if you share any similar interests in sports, music, movies, hobbies, etc. Most of all be confident and talk away. Have fun and enjoy meeting new people!
I Love Him - He Loves Basketball
Ok. So my boyfriend is obsessed with basketball. This is the second time we have gone out. He never calls me. And when I call him, he can't talk for long. I don't know what to do. I really think I deserve more, but there is just something about him I can't let go.
Honestly? If it doesn't work out the first time, it's not supposed to work out the second time. That's usually the case. If he doesn't call you, call him. Ask flat out - "Why haven't you called me?" If you think you deserve better, then you probably do! Don't sit around waiting for a guy to change, because it won't happen. Maybe there's something about him you can't let go. Maybe it's not knowing what you're really letting go, because you've never really had the chance to get to know him like you should. Talk to him about how you feel, then go from there!
And remember, Jessica, he's a guy. He may be more into basketball than into you ... or anyone right now. Until that certain someone captures his attention, he may not care all that much about having a GF.
♥ Stephanie Lynn
No Good Deed Goes Unpunished
Ok, so there's this kid named Jesse, and he's really cute and has a nice smile. I met him a while ago and I liked him, but when we were talking, I introduced him to my friend. That night he got my screen name, and he said he loved her. I'm like pretending to be a good friend, so I hooked them both up, and now that I really like him my friend asked him if he liked me. He said, "Yeah, I did, but when I found out she didn't like me, I stopped liking her." So I told him I liked him, and he said "awkward." So then he flirts with me and smiles with me and gives me the impression that he still likes me, but my friend's number 1 on his top, and I'm like 4, but idk, I wanna ask him if he likes me. What should I do?
Rough! Well, first off, remember this the next time you like a guy! Tell him, and don't try to be the good friend and hook him up! Always be true to your own feelings, and don't let anyone tell you any different! I know how it is trying to be nice to your friends, then getting hurt in the process. Guys can be stupid at times, and dumb to the fact of what's actually going on.
He knows you like him. Did you ask if he liked you? Find out! Worst thing that can happen is a no. But remember this: For every 'no' you get there is sure to be two 'yeses' out there somewhere.
Top friends? Don't worry about it ... it's just the internet. "Top friends" doesn't mean anything! Trust me! Here's the simple answer to your question ... ask him. Pay no mind to top friends or anything! Just flat out ask the boy!
What Will Happen When He Turns 18?
I have a boyfriend, and he's 16. We don't really have a problem, but the thing is, we don't know what we're going to do when he turns 18. What do you think is the best thing to do?
18??? That's two years away. Right now just worry about living life day-to-day. Trust me, things will work out for the best in time! Hope this helped.
Too Shy to Tell Him
I happen to like this guy who's 1 year younger than me. And I have a
strong feeling that he likes me back 'cuz he stares at me every time. My
friends and his friends all said that he likes me but he's too shy to
admit it ... and I'm too shy to say that I like him. This is my last
year in the school. I don't want to leave him, but I will soon. I wanna
do something to show that I like him ... So what should I do??? Should I
tell him that I like him???
If I were you, I would definitely tell him how I feel, no matter how
hard it seems. What do you have to lose? If he likes you back, then you
two can have a wonderful year together. If not, well, in a year you'll
be gone. Besides, you would feel much worse leaving and not telling him
how you feel.
Truth or Dare
Okay. So I like this guy a lot, and he told me he liked me too. So one
day at a cast party we were playing truth or dare. Everyone in the cast
knew I liked him, so my best friend dared him to make out with me. So
when we were all in the pool he swam over to me and was like all over
me, and we kissed and everyone was like 'Awww' and stuff, and then he
swam away and hasn't talked to me since. What should I do?
If I were you, I'd talk to him. I would tell him that you like him. He's
probably really uncomfortable about what happened at the party so tell
him that you guys never meant to make him uncomfortable. So basically
start over with him if anything in the past happened and made him
awkward apologize and move on.
Age Difference - My Parents Won't Approve
Alright, there is this boy. His name is Brian and he is 17. I REALLY like him and I know he likes me. But I know my parents won't approve of me dating someone that's a senior, because I am only a sophomore. But I really like him and he's a sweet guy, and I don't know what to do because my parents aren't the type you can talk to. They will either not take you seriously or not even listen at all. Help me.
Age is something that plays a big role in dating now, mostly because of legal matters. You said your parents aren't the talking type, but I'm sure since you're their daughter, if you sit down and talk to them they will listen. I think you should tell your parents about this guy, and how much it would mean to you if you could date him. Tell them that you like him and let them know that you'd never do anything that you weren't supposed to. Explain the situation from your point of view. Ask them if they'd be willing to meet this guy and get to know him. They will probably be more strict about it, but at least you will get to date him if everything goes ok. Just take it slow and show your parents you're responsible. They're probably more worried about you getting hurt then they are about anything else.
Best Of Luck,
I'm Falling for Him ... He Has a GF
I've been friends with my best friend for a year and a half now. Our friendship has been the greatest thing in the world. Problem is, I'm falling for him. And he has a girlfriend ...
If you're hinting you'd like to be with him, do not do anything to sabotage their relationship. The last thing you want to do is have him resent you. If waiting it out is not what you want to do, then you need to nudge him along your path. Flirt with him a little, but not too much to let the cat ALL the way out of the bag. What you need to do is give the notion that you have interest in him. Don't get all "steal you from your girlfriend" on him, but just let him know that he could have you if he wanted. You never know how he feels about you. Whatever you do, make sure his girlfriend doesn't become your enemy. However, it's every girl for herself. Good luck!